I think as we grow older, we become more and more aware of the kind of people we should surround ourselves with.
It doesn’t have anything to do with superiority or egotism, but rather, as time goes on and we experience life’s ups and downs, we understand who helps us grow and who impedes this. It’s about what your character + personality is and which people allow this to flourish, and likewise, who you love to help flourish.
From my own experience, you’ll know you’re surrounding yourself with too contrastive people when you feel you need to force yourself to be or act like someone you’re not, and when you begin to compare and belittle yourself. Your nature and disposition may be quieter, it may be louder. You might see things differently, you might feel things more or less. You just know.
Conversely, when you surround yourself with people who you align with, you don’t even think about the differences. Conversation is natural, you’re yourself, you feel comfortable in yourself and you enjoy supporting each other in what ever that may be. You are excited for each other when opportunities arise, you understand each other’s weaknesses and strengths, you genuinely feel like a better person when you’re together — whether it’s a friend, partner, family member, mentor, or group of friends.
This is just something that’s been on my mind lately, and I hope that my musing might help other people who experience this, or have experienced it in the past, to recognise that you’re not abnormal or awkward: you’re unique and exceptional — you just need to find people who are more like you.
Sometimes I feel like this is impossible, but that’s just me being fatalistic. These people exist in my and your life already, and although it may not a group of 50, they are there and always will be.
Find people who love like you do.