No one wants to feel alone — I think this is a fact, and a fear, shared by every single person on this planet.
Being surrounded by people or things you love, and who support you, inspires us and gives us zeal for life. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to be yourself around positive friends, partners or family, and it’s something we all aim for.
But sometimes that fear of feeling alone can lead us to people or things which aren’t inherently good to us or good for us, and it can in turn make us feel lonelier.
I think there’s a difference between feeling alone and being alone. And I think it’s important for us all to be able to feel comfortable being alone, without feeling alone.
That doesn’t mean we need to isolate ourselves from the outside world by any means, but it is a very empowering feeling to just be with yourself and to enjoy it. I guess this relates back to my previous post about Doing The Things That Make You Happy. Even if it’s just a few moments out of our day, it can be really therapeutic to take the time to do something alone that makes us feel good and makes us feel comfortable with who we are.
I live with my boyfriend and two other housemates, and although I absolutely adore my boyfriend, I enjoy knowing that I can spend a few hours out by myself and not feel anxious or alone. It’s a nice feeling to know that you are a perfectly independent person, and it makes you realise a) how lucky you are to have those special people in your life and b) know exactly the type of person that shouldn’t be in your life.
This shouldn’t mean we need to remove ourselves from the people we choose to surround ourselves with, but rather gain a sense of understanding about ourselves, to feel empowered, and to realise that distancing yourself from someone or something is not a bad thing when they may be adding to your feelings of loneliness or anxiety.
The ability to be alone without feeling alone is a wonderful feeling – I’d love to hear your thoughts on the matter.